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I’m notorious for entering competitions and signing me and my. husband up for things that he isn’t quite in the know about and having to explain it to him later. He is ALWAYS an excellent sport. He, after all, has been my partner in crime for over two decades now! Well, when I applied to America’s Favorite Couple, a philanthropic competition hosted by Jeff and Emilie Goldblum, my lovely husband had no clue. But, as always, he is along this ride with me and we’re actually in the running!

How we met: Brian and I were a blind date. Well, we were supposed to be a blind date but we met BEFORE the blind date and then had the awkward back and forth of does he (does she) like me. We were put together by two college friends who knew I was a serial dater – didn’t want to be in the long game with anyone and he was about to graduate. Twenty years later we still have them to thank.

Me with my Grandparents on my wedding day. They met on a blind date, just like me and Brian!

Fun story: My grandparents were set up on a blind date as well. They stood the test of time and will always be an inspiration to us!

Favorite Memory: There are too many favorite memories. We’ve had two beautiful children together. We’ve made homes together. We’ve traveled together. But, I think one of my ultimate favorite memories is the trip we made from Oklahoma to Portland in a UHaul truck. We said we’d move and decided on Portland sight unseen. None of our friends and family (and somewhat US) really believed we’d do it, but we did!

America's Favorite Couple The Bosts ringing in 2025
Brian and Jenni ringing in another new year together in 2025

The tagline: Our pre-marital counselor said,” you should break up now or you’ll be together forever.”

Brian commits to things like no one I’ve ever met. When he sets his mind to something he is going to do it, but our relationship did not start out as a commitment. (See photos from our wedding!)

When we were introduced, the plan was to break up when Brian graduated. And, we did! But, we then became friends. He lived across the country and we wrote (old school letters) and talked early in the morning on the phone. That friendship is really the basis of what we have together rather than the first few months we dated. When he moved back to Oklahoma we spent time just being friends, being dorky with each other and not caring if we didn’t look attractive or if we said the wrong thing. To this day he is the one person I can be utterly myself with. We of course (spoiler!) found our way to each other romantically again.

Wedding Newspaper Headline: Casual Intentions Lead to Marriage

When we got engaged, coming from a family of divorce, I really wanted to have pre-marital counseling. As a bonus, Oklahoma gave discounted marriage licenses to those who had pre-marital counseling and my school offered 8 free sessions. It was hands down the best decision! Pre-marital counseling had us thinking about what we valued and wanted in life. It allowed us to share that with each other and decide to commit to the other person’s goals and hopes as well as our own. At the very last session our pre-marital counselor, obviously understanding Brian’s ability to commit wholly and also recognizing the passionate (read: volatile, changeable, enthusiastic) person I am, gave us a warning. He said that we should break up right then and there, or we’d be together forever.

One of the many things that came out of that pre-marital counseling, besides utter commitment to surviving and thriving, was a joint mission. One of my core values is to be generous. To be generous of my time, my talents, and where I can, my money. Brian always fit into that value as he is so generous in spirit. He has a passion for the earth and for people that is unmatched. Together we spend our married life trying to be generous to those around us. Some of that you see on this blog, but some is so personal that no one but he and I will ever know about it.

Brian and Jenni Bost America's Favorite Couple 20 years ago
Brian and Jenni in 2004

When I applied to America’s Favorite Couple I thought it was funny and I needed a distraction from medical issues. When I found out we were accepted, my jaw dropped and I had to figure out how to tell Brian he was going to be online for a couple’s competition. However, the easiest thing to get both he and I onboard for this competition is the great causes it is raising money for!

The two causes very much represent Brian and Jenni. I am passionate about food security and food banks. I grew up needing the generosity of food banks, food kitchens, free school meals, and the like. Brian is an avid environmentalist who loves wildlife. The California Regional Food Bank and Oceana groups that this competition is raising awareness and funds for are a great reason to be a part of this competition.

So, please vote for us. Please vote for us and donate to these two worthy causes!

Home entertaining is a passion of mine because it helps bring people together. After years of working in restaurants, and tending bar, I particularly like making my home bar area well-stocked and beautiful! If you have someone in your life that enjoys breaking out the cocktail shaker showing of their own bartending skills, then this gift list is for you!

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GIft Ideas for the Home Bartender

Any of these gifts will make for a winning gift for the home bartender in your life. They range in price from less than $20 to around $120. Whether your friend or family member (or yourself) could use a new barcart or some really beautiful glassware, may the shopping commence!

Bar cart
  1. Bar cart: A glass and gold bar cart is a statement maker! I love that this one comes on wheels. The cart comes in gold, rose gold, or black.
  2. Crystal Mixing Glass: I use my crystal mixing glass ALL THE TIME. It is not only a beautiful way to put together a drink, but such a great tool for any home bar.
  3. Shaker Set: Every bartender needs a good shaker, jigger, strainer, etc. This Gold Cocktail Shaker Set has it all! If silver is more the vibe for the home-bartender you’re shopping for, then this cocktail shaker set is an affordable option with all the necessities!

A great way to make a cocktail sing is to add a few dashes of bitters or utilize a delicious syrup as a mixer. Get some great suggestions on ways to use bitters from Food & Wine. These are some of my favorites which would make great gifts. You can purchase them online or you can purchase many of them in a good specialty market or liquor store!

  1. Scrappy’s Bitters: Scrappy’s is a household name for a reason! They make unique and flavorful bitters that brighten an Old Fashioned or make a Manhattan! Two of my favorites from Scrappy’s are the Grapefruit Bitters and their classic Aromatic Bitters.
  2. Portland Syrups: Yes, I am a bit biased since I am based out of Portland, but these syrups are delicious! They work great in cocktails, but are also wonderful with sparkling water to make a tasty soda! Give a gift of a Portland Syrups Sampler or pick out a flavor you’re sure they’ll love!
  3. The Bitter Housewife Cardamom Bitters: This bottle of bitters is a staple in my bar. I love the taste of the cardamom bitters instead of traditional bitters in many of my cocktails over the holidays. Adds such a delicious spice to my drink!

    I have a lot of glassware in my home bar. I really love the feel of a beautiful glass and how it can highlight a drink be it water or a tasty cocktail. These sets of vintage-inspired designs are both in my bar and on my personal wishlist!

    1. Vintage Flamingo Belle Coupe Glasses: These glasses are in my home bar as we speak. They made for a gorgeous presentation for my Spiced Cranberry Negroni Cocktail during last year’s holiday celebrations! The box that they come in is an added treat. It makes for a truly beautiful gift to open!
    2. Vintage Art-Deco Ribbed Collins Glasses: A collins glass is a classic and is incredibly versatile! This belongs in any home whether they have a bar or not. They make for lovely water glasses on a set table just as well as highlighted glassware sitting upon a bar.
    3. Vintage Art-Deco 1920s Lowball Glasses: Lowball glasses, similar to collins glasses, are versatile and classics for that reason. This size and shape of lowball glasses are great for those cocktails with large ice cubes!
    1. Smoker Kit: If your home bartender is playing with more nuanced drinks, this a cocktail smoker kit is a fun thing to find under the tree!

    Searching for the right gift for someone can be a task, especially during the holiday season. If you have a loved one that enjoys making cocktails and hosting others in their home bar, then you’ll be sure to make their holiday with anything on the above list!

    Listening to an audiobook counts as reading. I stand by that statement 1000%. Audiobooks have gotten me through the last few years when too busy to be able to sit down and devote myself to a written book. After asking friends on Instagram for suggestions I landed on listening to Kristin Hannah’s The Four Winds.

    Read on for my thoughts on The Four Winds and for the other suggested titles shared by my friends on Instagram!

    About The Four Winds Audiobook

    The Four Winds by Kristin Hannah is a historical fiction novel (not usually my style) that centers around Elsa Martinelli, a Texan woman living through, “hard times.” Set in the time of the Dust Bowl and Great Depression, The Four Winds certainly puts into perspective the hard we are living through right now. It highlights many of the same plights that we are facing, but all without the advantage of internet, electricity, and running water.

    The audio version is narrated beautifully by Julia Whelan.

    Two different people suggested this audiobook so I had to give it a shot. I didn’t even look up the summary before purchasing—gotta love having extra Audible credits to burn. I needed a good “read” for a long car ride by myself and thought that two recommendations would seal the deal.

    The Four Winds Audiobook on ipad with earbuds

    The Four Winds: Heartbreaking, Inspiring Look at Female Amecianism

    First, I really was engaged by the book. Second, it was NOT the audiobook for a long car ride alone. SO MANY TEARS. It is also not a book for young ears.

    I really felt drawn by Elsa’s no-nonsense manner, her desire to be loved, her hard-working heart, and the sacrifices she made as a mother. I was moved by the parallels painted between some of the frustrations of now and those of back when.

    It was hard not to think of recent events when listening to the characters repeat the phrase, “this is not America.” Anyone looking to escape from the politics of today may want to hold off for a bit on this audiobook. However, if you want a good kick in the pants of “it could be worse” then listen as soon as possible.

    The story alternates, and not exactly deftly, between Elsa’s character and that of her daughter as the story moves on. I wasn’t a huge fan of this. In general, I’m not a fan of changing between characters unless it is very pronounced– for instance as a chapter changes. I admit that this transition possibly happened, but I didn’t know as a listener instead of a reader.

    In the end, the daughter’s perspective was needed and a vital part of the story. Her experience gave a depth that the story couldn’t have had otherwise.

    Last Words

    In the author’s note at the end of the novel, Kristen Hannah writes about this time we are in.

    “As we know, there are lessons to be learned from history, hope to be derived by hardships faced by others. We’ve gone through bad times before and survived, even thrived. History has shown us the strength and durability of the human spirit. In the end, it is our idealism, and our courage, and our commitment to one another—what we have in common—that will save us.”

    Kristen Hannah

    That stayed with me long after I was done listening. If you like historical fiction or stories about strong women I recommend this book.

    Audiobook Recommendations

    Need more recommendations? Try one of these audiobooks that were suggested by friends on Instagram. Many of them have made my list!

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