Today a ton of my photographer friends have been sharing an article from The Huffington Post by Anne Almasy, an award winning photographer. At first read of the article, “Resolution,” my heart kind of dropped. I felt saddened that so many of my photographer friends agreed so whole-heartily with something that felt as if it went against what I do and my little contribution to the wedding industry. However, after a few (like 10) more reads… I had some other thoughts about the article and my friends’ response to it.
A wedding blog/magazine responded to the photographer’s submission with the following words, “….More pictures of flowers, centerpieces, and any other details that really made these weddings special. Our Real Weddings section should give brides ideas for planning the perfect wedding.” I’d be tee’d off if it were my wedding and someone said that they needed more photos of the things that “really made these weddings special.” It was a poor way of saying that your readers/advertisers look for detail shots that will inspire creations for future weddings. Of course the wedding is about the couple and the people that are sharing the day with them. However, I also understand why blogs/wedding magazines can’t fill the pages with lovely photos of guests/couples… they’d never sell! I personally will ooh and ahh over beautiful wedding photos of guests, but I will spend hours devouring the details of an event getting inspired for events of my own.
The author does mention that she believes you should throw a party exactly as you should want it… she says that she means no offense to those in the wedding industry. She says she enjoys taking photos of those details. However, the overall tone of the article suggests that the details and the “damn expensive party” take away from what you’re really celebrating… or is it just me?
“If you’re planning your wedding right now, please just close the magazine. Log out of Pinterest. And look at the person you want to grow old with. Remind yourself of why you’re doing this. And really CELEBRATE when that day comes. Don’t stress about your shoes or your cake or your flowers. Don’t stress about anything. When it’s all over, you will be married, and surrounded by the people who know you and love you most in the whole wide world.”
Weddings can be stressful for about a thousand different reasons that have nothing to do with the “details.” How many brides out there stressed about whether a guest could make the date or whether their guests would get along? How many weddings have been planned (stressfully I might add) around an ill grandmother or a brother who is about to ship off for a job? I can’t get on board with this no stress= a better wedding mentality.
Do I think you should make yourself sick trying to get the perfect everything… of course not!
Do I believe that you should try your best not to stress on the day… and enjoy every moment. YES!
But, for someone who loves the details and who stresses over them herself often enough, I feel that just because someone looks through those wedding magazines or scours Pinterest it doesn’t mean she/he doesn’t know why they are throwing the event in the first place. (Although, I should say that I believe that at some point in the wedding planning process it is time to STOP the inspiration and get on with the planning … maybe that is what the author is trying to convey?) It is a possibility that the author of the article is just responding to the stressed out brides on their big day. Or perhaps its a response to the magazine’s terrible response for “the details that really made these weddings special.” I don’t disagree that a wedding photographer does SO MUCH MORE than just capture those details. As a matter of fact, I believe that the best wedding photographers capture the feeling of the party for the guests and the bride and groom.
I get why my photographer friends love this article. (And, I hope they see the value in the detail work people like I do.)
But, for the people that read my blog, those people that make a living and love working in the details of an event, and the soon-t0-be brides out there….
what did you get out of the article?
*I would love to hear your thoughts… please remember to speak kindly though. I don’t believe in bashing/tearing apart other people’s work on this site.